At the start of something we rarely consider its end.
Our hearts are filled with flutters and excitement. The uncertainty of our path and it’s unknown outcome ignite a fire in our nervous systems. Our senses are heightened, we sit on the sharp edge of expectation.
Beginnings often come after periods of deep longing, after times of loss, loneliness or lack.
They can find us taking shaky first steps or making fear-filled leaps of faith into uncharted futures.
The shakti that sits behind our beginnings fuels our ride, and soon we find we are crawling out of our predictable pasts and are being catapulted our towards a new job, a new lover, city or state of being.
Our tender first kisses can produce a passion previously unmatched. Our new city streets seem to sing as we walk by. Our new job evokes and embraces our creativity in ways that make going to work an absolute joy.
These feelings of freshness and freedom help us establish new patterns on our life. They create new habits, rhythms and behaviours, until, over time, they become our new normal.
Our shaky false starts are all but forgotten.
Our initial uncertainty is left behind as we integrate and function fully in our new roles.
The new streets become familiar, our lovers lips become a comfort, our job simply pays the bills.
But over time, things can begin go awry. We can, for a variety of reasons, become stale or bored. We can be betrayed, broken by circumstances or just lose our belief in the truth of a situation, the truth that situation holds for ourselves.
And whether it is hours, weeks, months or years later, we find ourselves at its end.
Here, we might realise we have become tired. We might be disillusioned by our once darling date, discover those city streets no longer sing to us, or perhaps we’ve burnt ourselves out doing the job of our dreams.
Whatever the reason, whatever the ending, however it looks, feels or tastes, it is as important to commemorate its passing as it was to celebrate its commencement.
We need to draw in close and sit with our dashed hopes and disconnected dreams.
To stay and honour the discomfort of our loss, our longing and love as it passes out of us and away.
Our endings may not even be brutal or sad – we may simply be finishing our studies, completing a group or course, moving out of home or leaving to travel abroad – it all involves a mix of excitement, change and sorrow.
It is important to recognise the rise of our emotions as life’s moments end.
To relax into and realise the fullness of the time that begins also means another time ends.
We may be racing forward, heading toward a change and future bright.
But just take a moment to pause before it’s all over.
Allow some rest and space for release before you go.
The art of completing well is so valuable as we commence each new stage.
You may not ever feel satisfied or get closure from the others involved, but you can choose to close the case for yourself.
Sign it off, tie it up and send it off with love, whatever it is.
Create a ceremony, a ritual, some special space to mark the ending, to set it free.
Then step forward, knowing your heart has come full circle.
That the cycle has been honoured, that is complete and done.
(C) Chandu Bickford